Who is Kitty Mulholland?
Hi. My name is Kitty Mulholland and I’m a swinger.
Saying it like that makes me feel as though I should be in some kind of self-help group,
taking my turn amongst a group of similarly-afflicted individuals, all nodding in empathy.
To some, ‘swinger’ might be a word which conjures up all sorts of negative images.
Some may be jealous of a woman who is sexually assertive.
Some may call me a slut.
But in reality I am happier than I have ever been in my life.
Something happened to me post-marriage. I decided I didn’t want to be conventional any more. Kind of a “been there, done that” attitude, really. There are too many restrictions for me.
I guess I have always been fairly promiscuous outside long-term relationships.
One night stands were never a problem for me, even before my marriage.
Amongst my friends at that time, I stood out in that respect. I came out to them as bisexual a few months before I met the guy I ended up marrying. At the time I didn’t realise this but, looking back, it is now obvious to me that to some degree at least, my marriage was a last-ditch attempt at following Society’s rules.
After the initial shock and grief of my marriage breakup, I was overwhelmed with relief.
I don’t think I realised how much of myself I had compromised to try and live up to my own skewed expectations. And if it hadn’t worked then, why would it ever work in the same way again? It was clear that my path had to change, otherwise the pattern would repeat.
So, I joined the swinging community. “Fun, classy, single girl available for NSA fun,” my personal ad read. Over the course of the next few months and years, I gained enormous amounts of self-esteem, a healthy Little Black Book of friends and playmates, and I’ve rediscovered my raison d’etre. In short, I feel on top of the world.
I have bags of confidence now, despite being neither the slimmest nor the most beautiful, nor the fittest girl I know. What I do know, for the first time in my life, is that I am attractive. I never knew this before. I date people from ‘The Scene’ now and then but until I find my partner-in-crime, I’m happy being single. I truly believe I will find him (or her) within the lifestyle I have embraced, where I feel I now belong.
“What on earth has all this got to do with me?” you might ask.
Well, for me anyway, writing is a reflection of my soul.
It is an outlet for expressing myself and giving a voice to the nymphomaniac inside of me.
My central character, Leah, is in part the girl I was when my husband and I separated. Some of her adventures are based on my own experiences. The Fierce & Fabulous series charts her journey towards sexual enlightenment through a series of encounters. Maybe she will find her soulmate on the way. Time will tell…